LETTER TO PROTEGES,ASPIRING PROTEGES, SONS/DAUGHTERS

Letter to protégés ,aspiring protégés, sons or mentees. I am privileged by the Grace of God to be called Daddy, Coach, Mentor by few people but the truth is that the relationship BTW a mentor and protégé is symbiotic and not parasitic, if not one person (usually the mentor will die) . Another truth is that a father knows his son/daughter , a mentor knows those who are his protégés no matter who is calling him mentor , daddy or coach. I have openly said that every body needs a coach ,every coach needs a higher coach and I personally, I don't have coach I have coaches that cuts across different spheres. Let me share how I treat my own coaches and mentors. 1. I check on them from time to time and not in an annoying way. Here is the reason: so when I need to seek for their opinion or advice ,it won't be like 'it is now that you need me that you are reaching out'. Nobody likes to be used! When u keep in touch when u don't need any advice or guidance , it makes them pour themselves into you when u need their thoughts 2. If I need to see my coaches in person, I don't go empty handed . I must have a form of gift . This is to prove that I just don't want to collect from you, I appreciate your effort in sharing what you know with me 3. One of my mentors, very popular in this country ,he has a general public space number . Then he has another number that is private ,after walking with him for a while, he gave me his private number ,he said call me anytime ( I don't!). Personally ,I don't send BroadCast message , let's now assume I do, I am smart enough to know that I should not abuse the privilege of having his contact, I will excuse his number from my Broadcast. I get a lot of broadcast from people , I find it joyful to block them on my platform. 4. I look for ways to grow the brand of my mentors: I have a mentor who is well known, and I felt his website name could we customised to his brand ,I did a domain name search for him, found out that his name is available ,paid the money for him and sent the name to me. Now tell me ,how he will not watch my back! On January 2nd, I hosted a free WhatsApp class that was oversubscribed ,we had over 200 people that could not attend . After the class,many said thankyou , some prayed , but one person chatted me up and said you have added value to me sir, next time when u want to host a free class, there is a certain platform you can host and you don't have to go through the rigour of adding people on your phone ,then adding them to the group for the class. He brought value to my table and instantly won a special place in my heart 5. I don't and will never ask my mentor or coach for money! You erode your value and pass a wrong information. If your mentor decides on his or her own to give you, that's another ball game and its honorable that way . 6. I don't pester my mentors to take me out for their events , if they do, I also don't tell them that I want to hold the microphone. You don't really learn anything while talking! 7. Mentors/ coaches are not daft people ,they can literally see through your heart, and know your motive for hanging around them. The more genuine you are, the better . 8. I don't maximise or use any contact of my mentors without their consent . The reason is simple ,if you do, and any problem arises or conflict ,where is the boldness to tell your mentor to resolve for you? 9. I don't compete with my mentors,I don't 'threaten' them ,one of the 48 laws of power says, never outshine the master! This is very true I need to stop now, though there are more things to share. Before you look for a mentor or coach, kindly have what you are bringing to the table and spell out your code of conduct before your mentor or coach. My name is Dr Shogo. I hope this letter Abi article makes some sense.